The Grass is always Greener on the other side!!!!

        Hello people, I am so so so sorry for not writing blogs since long. Today suddenly I felt its high time and I should start writing something about my motherhood days. Yeah last time I wrote a blog I was five months pregnant and now my daughter is 2 years old and I am catching up with you guys now. I know its indeed a shame on my side. I will try to write as an when I am free. 

     Coming to the agenda now, many of you must have seen woman talking to each other for a working mom that "she is so lucky to have a wonderful mother-in-law who takes care of her child so that she can go to work" or "Oh she is a wonder woman how can she do all sorts of things along with raising a beautiful daughter!" Guys now the truth is why am I writing this blog because today early in the morning my daughter suddenly hugged me and kissed me without any reason and tears welled up my eyes as I felt so fortunate to get such a loving gesture from her. You might not be knowing but such moments don't come handy to me hence I always get overwhelmed when she does such things and a thought comes to my mind that, "Am I missing out on all these things? Am I missing out on her childhood? Will I be able to cherish it when I am working whole day and getting no time for her? Its true guys one thing I have noticed that why Stay at home Moms are full of content and satisfaction its because they can see their children grow in front of them unlike working mothers. I know some of them won't agree with me but again as the title of my blog goes The Grass is always Greener on the other side. So working mothers no need to be sad, just try to sit with your kid as an when you get time and try to take out time for them and yourselves. Believe me its worth it!

Indeed a Miracle it is !

I don't know from where to start but recently I watched some video on mother and daughter relationship on facebook (some advertisement from Cello). Since then something has changed in me may be the love for my mother has also increased or you can say has become more intense and now that I am pregnant, I can relate and understand things more deeply than I used to do earlier. 

Yeah people you read it right I am five months pregnant now. I am so happy though touchwood as till now everything is going fine. This is the first blog of mine on motherhood. But before I say anything about motherhood I just want to say something about Miracles. 

Its a miracle giving birth to a whole new life,isn't it? We see seeds growing into saplings and saplings to plants which give rise to fruits and vegetables but is there anyone out there who has thought that its a miracle of god. We see science in everything but as per me all these things are miracles of God. We just take everything from granted in this materialistic world where people are running in some kind of race. When we were young and small kids we used to ask questions about everything, we used to be amazed when we saw something for the first time whether its the meow sound of a cat or a bird or anything new. Now we have lost the ability to be amazed at God's creation. 

I understood this fact when I went for my first ultrasound in my third month and wow was the first word that I uttered after seeing my baby for the very first time. I felt that little thing is inside me, growing in me and we ( me and hubby) have created a new life. Isn't that amazing? It was the moment when I started looking at everything differently. Its takes nine months to nurture a life so that it can live in this outside world.But have you ever thought what are we making of this beautiful world. I am even afraid of my baby's future on earth as over the years the world is changing, resources are banishing so speedily, but lets leave it that way. 

Its indeed a wonderful feeling in becoming a mother. I am so thankful to God for giving me this opportunity to be a mother. And ofcourse now I love my mom more and more as the days are passing by. May be its the God's way to teach us to be grateful to our mothers whom we forget in the process of growing up & learning new things.

And I was awestruck after looking at the surprise....

Hey Guys,
Here I am again with something in my mind to share with you all. Yeah, so yesterday was my birthday and expected my hubby dearest had done nothing special till 6 pm in the evening. By then I had completely forgotten about the surprise thing as I thought now I wont be getting any. I was expecting a nice lovely dinner somewhere in the outskirts of city and thats all. So, it was 6:30 pm in the evening and I was getting ready for an evening out with Mitesh. We started from our place to some place far, dont know what he was searching I mean which restaurant. I was completely puzzled. Suddenly he first took me to Mc Donalds for a Mc puff treat which I was craving for since so many months. I thought how can we eat twice at two different places but dint say him anything. Finally after a nice treat at McDonalds, we headed towards the restaurant; again he said "itta jaldi jake kya karna hai" and I was like he has gone mad. He took me for a drive back home (nearby somewhere) and we had nariyal pani ... I was like OMG now my stomach is full we cannot  eat more. We went for a drive again and I asked him to take me to TGB but he said Nirali is better I have been there. I told him I wanna see TGB of Rajkot. As soon as we reached that point he neglected that turn and took me to Nirali instead. I was so mad at him. Anger gushed inside me and I made angry glances at him too.
Still he was smiling and dint say a word. Finally reached there and an attendant took us to a fully decorated hut... I could not stop smiling then and there itself I again fell for him as if it was our first date after marriage. Gosh, I was awestruck by the beautiful decoration. I loved it so much. He truly made my day and I was so happy for that loving gesture. He gave me the same surprise the second time (Last time also he had done something like that) but believe me I am the dumbest person on this planet as I was not able to make out anything. All this was going on under my nose since evening..yeah my sister in law and brother in law helped him in all this planning. It could not have been better than this. I love them both too truly and deeply from my heart. Like this my evening ended nicely with a smile on my face.We came home and one more cake was waiting for me.We celebrated again with family and like this the day ended happily same way as the story ends in a fairytale :-). I hope you all had seen the pics already.  

Acceptance is the key to happiness!!!

Hello friends!!
My habit of connecting things and getting inspired from few real life incidents always lead me here in this space where I can freely share anything with you guys. This time I have brought a key to happiness. Yes!!! You heard me right friends.
Happiness is the only thing which we want in life. People think its an object to achieve but no its not a thing, its a mood which comes and goes more often. Its like being hungry and tired. Its not permanent..If we think about happiness this way then we can find it more often in our lives.
One such step or key to happiness is ACCEPTANCE. Accepting the things the way they are can make you more happy than always thinking of changing things and making fuss about things. We can correlate this with marriage. See in a marriage two souls are united even their families. Now before that boy and girl used to live in their own space but now they have to share each and every lil thing they own with each other. So, the first thing to remain happy with your partner is to accept him/her in your world. Until and unless we do so we can never be happy. Hence here only the rule of acceptance works.
I heard this acceptance thing from some serial ... Actually I dont watch much television but some how I got a glimpse of a scene where the actor was telling the other person that he has accepted the things as they are so he is happy ...
After marriage, even I used to make fuss about everything, every lil thing, be it my own flaws or my husband's or whomsoever concerned. I used to cry at night as I missed my mom alot in the initial days. I was not having a feeling of acceptance towards my new family and especially the house.. I never felt that it had the same warmth or welcoming spree as my house in ahmedabad. This all made me sad and dull. But slowly slowly I tried to accept the things as they were. Today I feel I am the happiest person on this planet. Being accepted and accepting something gives equal happiness and joy to ones heart.
Same ways when I joined gym at first I was not able to accept it as I used to feel that I m not accepted here by the people. They used to see me differently. I could not find any friendly faces anywhere but I tried alot to adjust and accept the things. I started being friendly with whomsoever came my way. I tried my level best to make friends just like I had in my earlier gym. But now I love going to gym here also. So acceptance takes a lot of time. Its a process of self development. And guess what God has made man in such a way that he can adapt to everything. Hence adaptation is nothing else but an outcome of acceptance!!!

WHY????

Hello Friends

Its been high time, I felt I should start blogging and vent out all the sadness and share it with you. After all that's what blogs are for sharing realities of life with friends. Lets get started.
"You can choose to blame your circumstances on fate, or bad luck, or bad choices, or you can fight back. Things aren’t always gonna be fair in the real world, that’s just the way it is. But for the most part you get what you give. Let me ask you all a question; what’s worse, not getting everything you wished for or getting it all and finding out it’s not enough. The rest of your life is being shaped right now with the dreams you chase, the choices you make, and the person you decide to be. The rest of your life is a long time and the rest of your life starts right now."

You must have read or heard from everyone out there that why only me ? why this happens only to me? This WHY ?? is the biggest and most famous question that has ever been made till now. Nobody understands this WHY? Some dont want to understand it, some fail to do so. I fall in second category. I dont really understand this word WHY??

I have always believed in the quote "What goes around, comes around" and it indeed seems to be true. Even you can try and somehow you will also find out that its true.. if you sow thorns, so shall you reap. Still we choose to blame our circumstances on fate. Its so true that things are not going to be just the way I want them to be. And whatever I have given, is what I am getting back. 

I wanna confess that I am happy and satisfied with my life. Although, even sometimes I crave for more. But its truly said that being greedy is not good. Today I have understood that whatever I decide to become in life as a person will shape rest of my life. But I am a person which kind of believe in living in present day as nobody knows when is the last day of life. Hence I would like to thank you all for being such a wonderful person in my life and also I would like to say sorry to those whom I have hurt intentionally (which I dont do) or unintentionally as I dont wanna repent afterwards that I dint thank all those wonderful people out there who have helped in making my small world so beautiful.

One piece of advice for all that Forgiveness is the biggest of all the virtues you have. We should always forgive another soul. Lastly would thank you for reading my blog. See you soon.!!!

A Girl's Unheard Scream.......

 I am really sorry friends for not writing the blogs. Anyway I am back with a thought which again relates my real life story. Lets get started then.

Yesterday I went to one of my relative's place where she was getting dressed for a party and her daughter was roaming around the place. I was waiting for her in the drawing room where her daughter was playing "Teacher teacher ;-P" ( the one even we used to play as a kid). Her mother started bawling her out for wearing shoes and going to the party and suddenly an interesting conversation started between the mother and daughter. I will skip that one..and come to the point. In between my mother-in-law jumped and asked the little girl what she would become when she will grow up. She asked her "Teacher banogi ?" The girl said yes why not, I already play with my lil brother and I become teacher in that. Her mother made a very interesting comment on her reply which made me write this whole story and blog. It was like this, she says,"Every girl in her childhood wants to become a teacher, then after a certain period she wants to become a doctor, then a model/actress but finally what is her fate? She is asked to make gol gol rotis in her sasural whether she want to do it or not."

After hearing this all my childhood memories started flashing in front of eyes, tears started rolling over my cheeks and it made me ponder, have I accomplished everything I have ever thought of till now. Then I went through my whole achievements list till date and it made me realise that yes I was a teacher before marriage (Tuition teacher though ;-P). I have not done modelling yet but I used to become model for make up practice at vlcc institute while learning the course. I even got a chance to be a contestant in Miss Gujarat Competition 2014 but I missed it due to illness. Finally, I became a nutritionist and married a doctor ;-). I am happy I am working as well as nourishing my family with care. This would not have been possible without my new family's support and on top of all my MIL's* support. Had she not helped me in household chores, I would not have had joined the corporation in first place. I owe her a lot,

*(I have seen many MIL's who have stopped working after they get a bahu. They feel like getting retired from the household work. I must say they should get a kaam wali bai for full day instead getting their sons married. Atleast that bai will get her monthly wages.)

And for all you girls out there reading this blog please revise your dreams and try to accomplish them. Take a stand for yourself and tell your in-laws about your dreams and discuss them and find a way through which you can achieve them. I know this is next to impossible in some cases but Where there's a Will, there's a Way.. 

I just wanted to make a point that are we really living our life or are we just taking ourselves granted? I had asked myself this question and even I have to accomplish a lot in life for which will power and struggle are the only keys.

Thank you for reading my blog and leave a comment if anywhere I am wrong.

To the one I love the most

Its been too long I have not written any blog since I got engaged. OMG and now I 

am married. My journey from our first meeting to our marriage was fabulous.Yeah there 

were many ups and downs, we fought, we shared, we realized, we reconciled,but which 

couple doesn't in a relationship.From the title itself you must have figured out I am 

talking about my dearest hubby..Oh! I am so much in love with him. So, I thought to 

write a blog on him..about him actually.

I once heard this quote on a TV series which is like this,

  "Life is not measured by the no. of breaths we take, but the no. of 

moments that take our breaths away."

Its so true because generally we remember only the breath taking moments of our 

life and my first meeting with him was just the same - breath taking one. It was so 

sudden without any prior notice we met.. Of course! Ours is an arranged marriage but 

now I don't even feel so. Its like as if we know each other since lifetime. 

 He is the one who believes in me and when I look into his eyes, it feels as if whole 

sea of love is just for me and no one else. I feel secure in his arms and yeah, that's true sweetheart "you are the harmony to my heartbeat baby." 

 I have experienced many breath taking adventures with him. Those are my most 

precious memorable moments with him which bring smile to my face whenever I think 

about them. I have written this blog just to thank him for being such a wonderful person 

and accepting me as his life partner. Darling! May God bless you always and may you 

flourish in your field. 

            P.S. I love you and ll always do. <3 <3