And I was awestruck after looking at the surprise....

Hey Guys,
Here I am again with something in my mind to share with you all. Yeah, so yesterday was my birthday and expected my hubby dearest had done nothing special till 6 pm in the evening. By then I had completely forgotten about the surprise thing as I thought now I wont be getting any. I was expecting a nice lovely dinner somewhere in the outskirts of city and thats all. So, it was 6:30 pm in the evening and I was getting ready for an evening out with Mitesh. We started from our place to some place far, dont know what he was searching I mean which restaurant. I was completely puzzled. Suddenly he first took me to Mc Donalds for a Mc puff treat which I was craving for since so many months. I thought how can we eat twice at two different places but dint say him anything. Finally after a nice treat at McDonalds, we headed towards the restaurant; again he said "itta jaldi jake kya karna hai" and I was like he has gone mad. He took me for a drive back home (nearby somewhere) and we had nariyal pani ... I was like OMG now my stomach is full we cannot  eat more. We went for a drive again and I asked him to take me to TGB but he said Nirali is better I have been there. I told him I wanna see TGB of Rajkot. As soon as we reached that point he neglected that turn and took me to Nirali instead. I was so mad at him. Anger gushed inside me and I made angry glances at him too.
Still he was smiling and dint say a word. Finally reached there and an attendant took us to a fully decorated hut... I could not stop smiling then and there itself I again fell for him as if it was our first date after marriage. Gosh, I was awestruck by the beautiful decoration. I loved it so much. He truly made my day and I was so happy for that loving gesture. He gave me the same surprise the second time (Last time also he had done something like that) but believe me I am the dumbest person on this planet as I was not able to make out anything. All this was going on under my nose since evening..yeah my sister in law and brother in law helped him in all this planning. It could not have been better than this. I love them both too truly and deeply from my heart. Like this my evening ended nicely with a smile on my face.We came home and one more cake was waiting for me.We celebrated again with family and like this the day ended happily same way as the story ends in a fairytale :-). I hope you all had seen the pics already.  

Acceptance is the key to happiness!!!

Hello friends!!
My habit of connecting things and getting inspired from few real life incidents always lead me here in this space where I can freely share anything with you guys. This time I have brought a key to happiness. Yes!!! You heard me right friends.
Happiness is the only thing which we want in life. People think its an object to achieve but no its not a thing, its a mood which comes and goes more often. Its like being hungry and tired. Its not permanent..If we think about happiness this way then we can find it more often in our lives.
One such step or key to happiness is ACCEPTANCE. Accepting the things the way they are can make you more happy than always thinking of changing things and making fuss about things. We can correlate this with marriage. See in a marriage two souls are united even their families. Now before that boy and girl used to live in their own space but now they have to share each and every lil thing they own with each other. So, the first thing to remain happy with your partner is to accept him/her in your world. Until and unless we do so we can never be happy. Hence here only the rule of acceptance works.
I heard this acceptance thing from some serial ... Actually I dont watch much television but some how I got a glimpse of a scene where the actor was telling the other person that he has accepted the things as they are so he is happy ...
After marriage, even I used to make fuss about everything, every lil thing, be it my own flaws or my husband's or whomsoever concerned. I used to cry at night as I missed my mom alot in the initial days. I was not having a feeling of acceptance towards my new family and especially the house.. I never felt that it had the same warmth or welcoming spree as my house in ahmedabad. This all made me sad and dull. But slowly slowly I tried to accept the things as they were. Today I feel I am the happiest person on this planet. Being accepted and accepting something gives equal happiness and joy to ones heart.
Same ways when I joined gym at first I was not able to accept it as I used to feel that I m not accepted here by the people. They used to see me differently. I could not find any friendly faces anywhere but I tried alot to adjust and accept the things. I started being friendly with whomsoever came my way. I tried my level best to make friends just like I had in my earlier gym. But now I love going to gym here also. So acceptance takes a lot of time. Its a process of self development. And guess what God has made man in such a way that he can adapt to everything. Hence adaptation is nothing else but an outcome of acceptance!!!

WHY????

Hello Friends

Its been high time, I felt I should start blogging and vent out all the sadness and share it with you. After all that's what blogs are for sharing realities of life with friends. Lets get started.
"You can choose to blame your circumstances on fate, or bad luck, or bad choices, or you can fight back. Things aren’t always gonna be fair in the real world, that’s just the way it is. But for the most part you get what you give. Let me ask you all a question; what’s worse, not getting everything you wished for or getting it all and finding out it’s not enough. The rest of your life is being shaped right now with the dreams you chase, the choices you make, and the person you decide to be. The rest of your life is a long time and the rest of your life starts right now."

You must have read or heard from everyone out there that why only me ? why this happens only to me? This WHY ?? is the biggest and most famous question that has ever been made till now. Nobody understands this WHY? Some dont want to understand it, some fail to do so. I fall in second category. I dont really understand this word WHY??

I have always believed in the quote "What goes around, comes around" and it indeed seems to be true. Even you can try and somehow you will also find out that its true.. if you sow thorns, so shall you reap. Still we choose to blame our circumstances on fate. Its so true that things are not going to be just the way I want them to be. And whatever I have given, is what I am getting back. 

I wanna confess that I am happy and satisfied with my life. Although, even sometimes I crave for more. But its truly said that being greedy is not good. Today I have understood that whatever I decide to become in life as a person will shape rest of my life. But I am a person which kind of believe in living in present day as nobody knows when is the last day of life. Hence I would like to thank you all for being such a wonderful person in my life and also I would like to say sorry to those whom I have hurt intentionally (which I dont do) or unintentionally as I dont wanna repent afterwards that I dint thank all those wonderful people out there who have helped in making my small world so beautiful.

One piece of advice for all that Forgiveness is the biggest of all the virtues you have. We should always forgive another soul. Lastly would thank you for reading my blog. See you soon.!!!

A Girl's Unheard Scream.......

 I am really sorry friends for not writing the blogs. Anyway I am back with a thought which again relates my real life story. Lets get started then.

Yesterday I went to one of my relative's place where she was getting dressed for a party and her daughter was roaming around the place. I was waiting for her in the drawing room where her daughter was playing "Teacher teacher ;-P" ( the one even we used to play as a kid). Her mother started bawling her out for wearing shoes and going to the party and suddenly an interesting conversation started between the mother and daughter. I will skip that one..and come to the point. In between my mother-in-law jumped and asked the little girl what she would become when she will grow up. She asked her "Teacher banogi ?" The girl said yes why not, I already play with my lil brother and I become teacher in that. Her mother made a very interesting comment on her reply which made me write this whole story and blog. It was like this, she says,"Every girl in her childhood wants to become a teacher, then after a certain period she wants to become a doctor, then a model/actress but finally what is her fate? She is asked to make gol gol rotis in her sasural whether she want to do it or not."

After hearing this all my childhood memories started flashing in front of eyes, tears started rolling over my cheeks and it made me ponder, have I accomplished everything I have ever thought of till now. Then I went through my whole achievements list till date and it made me realise that yes I was a teacher before marriage (Tuition teacher though ;-P). I have not done modelling yet but I used to become model for make up practice at vlcc institute while learning the course. I even got a chance to be a contestant in Miss Gujarat Competition 2014 but I missed it due to illness. Finally, I became a nutritionist and married a doctor ;-). I am happy I am working as well as nourishing my family with care. This would not have been possible without my new family's support and on top of all my MIL's* support. Had she not helped me in household chores, I would not have had joined the corporation in first place. I owe her a lot,

*(I have seen many MIL's who have stopped working after they get a bahu. They feel like getting retired from the household work. I must say they should get a kaam wali bai for full day instead getting their sons married. Atleast that bai will get her monthly wages.)

And for all you girls out there reading this blog please revise your dreams and try to accomplish them. Take a stand for yourself and tell your in-laws about your dreams and discuss them and find a way through which you can achieve them. I know this is next to impossible in some cases but Where there's a Will, there's a Way.. 

I just wanted to make a point that are we really living our life or are we just taking ourselves granted? I had asked myself this question and even I have to accomplish a lot in life for which will power and struggle are the only keys.

Thank you for reading my blog and leave a comment if anywhere I am wrong.

Everything Changes for Good

       We have heard this many times from one or the other person in our life that "Change is the spice of life." I am sure you must have heard that too and some of you might just believe in it too. But how many of you can actually digest something new that comes so easily in your life without knocking your door? I don't think any of you. Even I am afraid of changing a few things in my life or I can say I was afraid, but now, I am really not bothered about it anymore. I had this problem of not letting people leave. I know we cannot force anyone to be with us forever. Its a matter of personal choice. I always wanted to get hold of things and people my way. I know its crazy but that's how I was!

        Now what made me write this blog? I had written in my first blog that I relate things and so something happened today which made me relate two or more things. John Steinbeck once wrote,

"Change comes like a little wind that ruffles the curtains at dawn, and it comes like the stealthy perfume of wildflowers hidden in the grass.”

        Actually recently some things changed in my life. I have learnt people change even if you care alot about them. They really don't care as they are too selfish. It was hard for me and was kind of depressed for a day or two. Yeah, two precious days of my life yaar! :-) But, soon I let it go as time can heal anything that's what I feel. Also, some things changed at my workout place too and I was really not able to digest them too. Now, I am really fine about it as suddenly I remembered the above quote. Change really comes like a soft breeze and like a sweet scent which soothes us, then why are we afraid of it. We should not fear about it as it's gonna happen no matter what! We cannot stop it from coming hence we should try to figure out things and go with the flow. Things will change with the course of time. 

         I recovered myself from the biggest change that occurred in my life and now I am happy as ever even without that thing which I used to have all the time. It helped me heal and now I am a changed person because of that. I am happy it happened. I am sure you will be happy too, you just have to accept the change!

Don't lose your temper, nobody wants it.

    As the title itself says that this blog is gonna be on short temperament. I have been a very short tempered girl but I have never thrown things as most people do. Yeah, I know I want everyone to be perfect and want them to do things the way I want. Anyway I just wanted to share an incident with you guys. Few days back I quarreled with my brother for a TV serial. I wanted to watch a serial and he wanted to watch the IPL match. He constantly kept asking me for the remote to change the channel and I was feeling so annoyed that I lost my temper and threw the remote on his face. After that I left the room and went to sleep. But believe me I was not able to sleep as I felt guilty for what I did. It was a beastly thing to do. I have never done that in my life. As I always feel this is the thing which makes us different from animals. And I behaved that way. I thought about it a lot and finally decided to apologize for my mistake. Hence, I said sorry to my brother next day in morning. He was surprised to see me that way but it felt so nice I must tell you as if a burden is laden off from your heart. Its truly said that "it feels really good to forgive and being forgiven."

I know many of you must be feeling that it was not a big thing for which a blog can be written. Anyway I just felt that I should share it with you. From that day onward I have promised myself that I wont lose my temper so easily.

"Never do anything when you are in a temper, for you will do everything wrong".

- Baltasar Gracian