For the answer I searched in my mind and my mind said lets look around ourselves and our society. So, I did some research and found that partly the thing is true. The women are still not free in our country. They are yet not suppose to express their opinions and give some ideas regarding crucial issues. As we all know the ratio of female:male is being diminished day by day and due to this mainly girls are facing problems. I don't know what the modern male mentality is upto, they just feel the girls are the objects of their entertainment. The way males look at a girl as if he just wants to possess her. Nowadays its really hard for a girl to look beautiful, as this beauty is her biggest enemy. No wonder there are two sides of a coin, similarly good guys do exist but the majority of the male population just wants to have fun. No commitment nothing!!.
Television also wants women to look up to these serious issues and stand for herself like Rani laxmibhai. Serials like Maryada-lekin kab tak, Kali- ek agnipariksha and many more are not just for fun or rising TRP business.These show the things which actually occur in our society. These are not for mere watching, but for taking a stand and to show we are not an object or your possession, instead we have an identity, a self respect which no one can steal from us.
Have you guys read the poem An Introduction by Kamala Das, its a must read poem. Please read it I am posting in the next blog after this. You are really gonna realize how she must have felt about being a woman and how she was treated, its a pity and many women are still living a life like this. There was one more poem, I dont remember the poet, its "The purdah". In that too women are so ill-treated and they are allowed only to remain in purdahs only. I know many of you will say that purdah system is gone now since ages its abolished, but no thats really not the case. I have recently seen women still wearing purdahs and carrying out this ritual daily. This topic can go on and on but is there any solution for this? In my opinion, yes there is a solution unless and until we women will stand for ourselves....
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Currently in world only those females are not free, who are found (unluckily) in the environment containing narrow minded males. Narrow mindedness brings selfishness too.. Only narrow minded people believe-in and perform the acts of female restriction and female domination...
ReplyDeleteAll those females that are free and happy, have broadminded males in their lives, or say the males who can see a situation by putting themselves in shoes of others ... An individual who is truly broadminded will always understand life at its basic level and will not make any immature attempts of dominating a female in his life....
Further I believe that good decisions and bad decisions all depends upon the "disposition" of an individual.. There are people with "noble disposition" and there are people with "evil disposition"... a noble person will use his knowledge and intelligence for constructive purpose while an evil person is most likely to use his/her knowledge and intelligence for destructive purposes...
As an example, in the eyes of a constructive person a pen is a tool used for writing information on paper... but a destructive person can take this same pen and poke it in someone's arm to give him/her pain...
Thus, my conclusion for all females who are still not free in the society would be to try to be in the company of males ( friends, boyfriends, husbands, relatives ) who are really broadminded, and you'll not face any such domination, and furthermore you and your individuality will be respected...
thats true but girls cannot take their own decisions in narrow minded orthodox families, hence they are the victims of such things. You won't believe recently I met a guy who liked me as more than a friend, I thought lets give it a try. Because of my bad luck or good luck you can say, I came to know from his thoughts that he is so orthodox. Thankfully I am not in any kind of relationship with him. By the way, tell me how many percent of males are broad minded in our society??. Leave this thing you tell how many percent of guys look women with respect? Even if they find an attractive girl walking down the street, they will just make a comment or whistle. You also know percent of such cheap guys is more than decent ones..
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with you on this Teena.
ReplyDeleteWe as in women are not completely free in our society. In the urban areas, where people are considered "modern", the crime ratio against women is more than the rural areas. There are hot spots in the cities where youngsters come just to stare at girls.
Even today, there are people who don't want their daughters, wives, sisters, daughter-in-laws to go for higher studies or work. Why? Because at those places they will come across other males! Now how disgusting is that.
If things continue to be the way they are now, even thought I am a die-hard optimist, am compelled to say that, there is no hope for our people and county at large!
BTW, you writing skills have improved and it shows!
Way to go girl!! :)
thanks sneha...and yeah ur comment is really true...even i agree that there is just a LITTLE hope...:P
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